Case Story
Amaka, a very beautiful girl has been dating John for quite
some time now with hope they would get married, they have had a very fruitful
relationship until things went sour, john started taking bad advice from
friends and peers, until he came home one Friday drunk and demanded sex from
Amaka, when she refused he beat her and in the process forced himself on her.
Simi, a maid brought in from the village has been receiving sweets and gift
from her madam’s husband just to make her a second bed warmer anytime his wife
travels, on most cases if she refuses he will threaten and over power her and
even deny her food for that day, Dele the Most handsome guy in the area has
been reduced to a cellophane because of multiple assault on his life by gangs
of girls, older and ruthless than him, on most cases he would be raped with
guns to his head, dele would run at the sight of any girl he sees. Phillip an
invalid admitted to undergo surgery in an hospital, was always looking
exhausted and was never getting stronger after the surgery, it was a later
discovered that a particular nurse was always assaulting him anytime she was on
duty covering his mouth so that he won’t shout this story is drawn from fiction
and real life occurrences.
While we think it’s not happening, everyday one or two
persons are victims of molestation and sexual abuse with few persons having the
courage to speak out, however most cases involve girls of all ages with
teenagers and younger adults predominantly.
There are also reported cases of pedophilia where children or juveniles
are lured with sweets and gifts and sexually molested by adults old enough to
be their guardians, parent and grandparents, with these children not been able
to speak because they are bribed and threatened by these offenders
SEXUAL ABUSE
Sexual abuse also referred to as molestation is an unwanted
sexual desire by one person against another person without the person’s consent
usually through the act of force or threats, others might be through violence
or blackmail, however when force is used it is leads to sexual assault, people
who get involved in this act are known as sexual abusers or molesters. Sexual
abuse as an act isn’t limited to a place or location it happens worldwide, it
can happen anywhere, at home, work places and offices, schools, vehicles, bus
parks and even places of worship, and
daily people face countless cases of sexual harassment from friends and
strangers.
VICTIMS OF SEXUAL
ABUSE
Sexual abuse is not limited to females only, while most
sexually abuses male will be too ashamed to admit because of societal notion
that a man abused by a woman is not a man, and the fear of being ridiculed by
other men so most males don’t report their experiences and sometimes cases like
this are not taking seriously like cases of rape and domestic violence against
women by their husbands. Victims of sexual abuses are spouses, children, sick
people and the old and elderly people.
SPOUSES
Amaka’s case
above though she is yet to be married to john is one of the few occurrences
happening in Nigeria and the world, it also involves married couples, with some
wives losing their lives in the process, spouse sexual assault is a form of
domestic violence and most perpetrators
are either sane or under the influence of external factors such as alcohol,
marijuana and peer pressure.
Children
There have
been reported cases of sexual assault
against minors, Simi’s case is no different, most adult has conditions that
make them unnaturally sexually attracted to children, thus any children around
them become victims of sexual assault, this condition is known as pedophilia,
and the offenders are known as pedophiles, even sane adults still engage in
this act and some children when assaulted become mentally and physically
scarred with some girls growing up to become nymphomaniacs with an addiction
for sex. Sexual assault against children is a crime against humanity and
against God and should be discourage and offenders given a heavy sentence.
SICK PEOPLE AND PEOPLE WITH
DISABILITIES
As stated previously, sexual assault can happen anywhere,
just the like case of Phillip in the hospital; people having no ability to
defend themselves because they are sick can be sexually assaulted even by the
people meant to care for them, that is one of the few cases as some mentally
unstable people often referred to as madmen or women and disabled people are
also victims of sexual assault by some unscrupulous people, who derive joy in
lying with mad people.
Old people
In terms of being assaulted sexually, old people are also
victims too, with reported cases of grandmothers being assaulted by people old
enough to be their grandsons, old people sometimes have dementia unable to
remember the event of an assault can be repeatedly assaulted.
Effects of sexual
abuse
Sexual abuse has been known to cause serious problems in the
society such as the spread of sexually transmitted diseases, like HIV, sickness,
suicide and death, emotional and mental imbalances, poor performances in academic and social life
of the victims, some female respond negatively by becoming nymphomaniacs
CAUSES OF SEXUAL
ABUSE
Sexual abuse can be caused by
1.
Indecent dressing
2.
Socioeconomic factors like poverty
3.
Alcohol and drug abuse
4.
Lack of awareness and sensitization
5.
Poor family background
6.
Nonchalance against cases of sexual abuse
7.
Abuse of power by agencies and individuals
especially people in government
PREVENTION
Like every other man made factors in the
society sexual abuse can be prevented, ways it can be done are;
1.
Sensitization and awareness against sexual abuse
through the media, social media and private organizations
2.
Passing of laws against sexual offenders and
effecting punishment
3.
Fight the scourge and warning against drug abuse
4.
Government agencies improving life and living
its citizens
5.
Parents ensuring proper upbringing of their
children by demonstrating love in the home
6.
Encouraging decent dressings by the females
7.
People sharing their experiences, for others to
learn.
TREATMENT
People that has been sexually abused or victims of sexual
assault can become disoriented physically, sexually and mentally with some of
them becoming shadows of their formal self, however this case is not above treatment, ways
it can be treated are through.
1.
Rehabilitation
2.
Therapy
3.
Counseling
4.
Intervention of loved ones, friends and
families.
Conclusion;
sexual abuse is a problem in the society and it involves people of all ages
gender and physical condition, it causes a great deal of health and economic
conditions, it can be prevented and treated, and victims of sexual abuse can
become normal after an abuse.
